How to Get the Most Out of Group Counseling

We are deeply social creatures, and there is likely nothing quite so painful as the pain of isolation, especially when we are hurt. Being alone when you are going through a tough time can become a burden all its own, but you do not have to go through challenging times on your own. You can find support through counseling, and in group counseling, in particular, you can walk alongside others who are dealing with the same things you are.

Group counseling: what it is, and how it works

Group counseling is a type of psychotherapy, or talk therapy, in which a group of between five and fifteen individuals meet together weekly for about an hour to work through an area of concern. That area of concern may be depression, anxiety, anger management, or substance abuse, to name a few.

One or two counselors who are trained to oversee group dynamics help to guide the group in its discussions. They also facilitate the group so that the members grow in offering a positive influence in helping each other achieve healthy outcomes. Confidentiality about what is shared in the group is emphasized, as group members share their experiences and give each other ideas about how to overcome challenges.

Getting the most out of group counseling

If you are thinking about going for group counseling, you may be apprehensive depending on what you expect or are afraid of. The thought of joining a few strangers and talking about an intimate area of your life, that perhaps your family members don’t even know about, can make anyone anxious. Understanding how group counseling works helps, and it also helps to know how to get the most out of the experience.

You may worry that you won’t know what to say, or that other group members may dominate the group and not give others a chance to speak. You may fear that the group might not accept you. It’s also possible that you might think you have nothing of value to add to the group, or you might think that the other group members won’t have anything helpful to contribute that a counselor could point out by themselves.

These fears and expectations are real, and they may be holding you back at the outset. However, if group counseling is the setting you are contemplating receiving care and support, there are several mind shifts and adjustments that might enable you to get the most out of it. Some examples of things to do and keep in mind include the following:

Try out different groups

Just as you may need to see a few counselors before landing on one whose approach and style work for you, it may be necessary to look around for a group whose dynamic is more suitable for you. Find a group you feel comfortable in and that meets your needs.

Be patient and compassionate with yourself and other group members

Getting comfortable in the group may take time, and it may also take time to form meaningful bonds with others. If you are engaging with others who are not where you are in your journey, don’t despise your own gains, or look down upon theirs. Group is a great place to encourage others and to get encouragement, in turn.

Be genuine

When you are open with others about where you’re at, the guided conversation of the group can be more directly helpful. It will do you no good to mask what is truly going on, because whatever advice other group members share might miss the mark for lack of information and context. It can be scary to be open with others like that, but that is how you get the most out of it.

Be wise about safety

Yes, you should be open and genuine with your fellow group members, but be wise about what you share, such as details about where you live and work, or the names of loved ones when that comes up in discussion.

Commit to be present and participate

Group counseling works for you the same way that individual counseling works – you need to show up and participate in what’s happening. You will get more from the group if you come regularly and contribute to the discussions.

Do not be afraid to take up space

It is okay for you to talk about yourself, your situation, and your concerns in the group. That is what it’s there for, and you should make full use of it. Share your thoughts, ask your questions, and be willing to take up space if you are feeling reluctant to do so.

Be open to feedback and accountability

When you share yourself with others, part of the dynamic in a group is that the members can give you feedback. That feedback may be welcome, but it can also be hard to digest. You may disagree with it entirely. However, feedback can help you by providing a counterpoint from which to view things, understand yourself better, and explore ideas you had not considered before.

Be open to giving feedback

Just as others contribute to your journey, be willing to contribute to theirs. Group is a great place to learn how to give feedback constructively. Your counselor(s) and fellow group members may challenge you if you are condescending or disrespectful toward others. It is a great opportunity to learn the skill of communicating in a direct, honest, and respectful way.

Getting started

Group counseling in Texas can help address serious concerns. You should consider making use of it to improve your overall well-being. If you are ready for this step of group counseling or even individual counseling, reach out to us today at Texas Christian Counseling. We will pair you with a group or individual counselor that addresses the issue you have been struggling with. Begin your journey toward healing and wholeness.