Teen Counseling: How it Works and Concerns it Can Address
Shawna Shaughnessy
When you think back on your teenage years, what do you remember? Your experiences growing up are unique to your upbringing and may not reflect the same struggles that your teen is currently experiencing. Being a teen comes with its challenges, and having support through teen counseling can make all the difference in how a teen navigates those challenges.
Teen counseling is one of the many tools available to help a teenager make sense of their struggles, choices, and experiences. It addresses a variety of concerns and can be a vital source of support during challenging times. This article will highlight how counseling for teens works, the kinds of issues it addresses, and how it can be a beneficial process.
What is counseling for teens?
In many ways, counseling is the same across the board, regardless of the individual’s age or the concern being addressed. Counseling is about finding support and having a safe, confidential environment in which a person can express their feelings and thoughts, and share their experiences without the fear of facing judgment.
Counseling is a space where you can unpack things that are weighing you down and develop a better understanding of yourself and your situation. Through teen counseling, you will learn tools and strategies to cope with your struggles and help you move forward with your life.
Challenges and obstacles can prevent us from living lives that feel whole, fulfilling, or abundant (John 10:10). Taking hold of God’s promises and living them out is a challenging enterprise, and counseling can help you as you do this.
Through counseling, adolescents can learn how to navigate the behavioral, emotional, and psychological challenges that may hinder them from the life the Lord desires for them. A trained and licensed counselor can help a teen learn to express themselves in a healthy and productive way while also assisting them in understanding and managing their struggles.
How does counseling work?
There are different forms of counseling (which we will get to shortly), but there are a few general expectations you can have about how counseling works. Knowing how it works can help you manage expectations and better prepare for the experience as a whole
When people hear the word “counseling,” what probably comes to mind is either a one-on-one session or a group setting. Counseling does typically involve one-on-one sessions between the teen and a qualified counselor who is trained to address the specific concerns the teen has.The process of counseling – and it is a process – may include an initial assessment, where the counselor learns about the teen’s background, the current concerns and issues they’re facing, and their goals for the process. Combined with the initial session, this assessment allows the counselor to formulate a tailored treatment plan for the teen.
After the initial assessment, if the teen and counselor decide to move forward with therapy, they will schedule future sessions on a recurring schedule. These sessions may be weekly or bi-weekly, depending on the concerns being addressed and the frequency that’s best suited for that.
Depending on the teen’s needs, the counselor will use those sessions to implement various techniques, including but not limited to talk therapy, music or art therapy, mindfulness, or cognitive-behavioral strategies to address their concerns.
Occasionally, the teen and their counselor will do a progress review. The purpose of these periodic evaluations is to assess the teen’s progress since they began counseling. In addition, these progress reviews enable a counselor to adjust the clinical approaches being used with the teen if progress is not being made. Sometimes adjustments are needed to ensure counseling is as effective as possible.
The Issues Addressed in Teen Counseling
At times, the belief that nothing or no one can help with your specific struggles can stop a person from seeking help. Not only does this increase one’s sense of isolation, but it can inadvertently cut you off from a vital resource. Counseling can address a broad range of concerns and issues, including but not limited to:
Behavioral issue These may include concerns as varied as aggression and anger issues, defiance toward parents or other authority figures, and risk-taking behaviors such as substance abuse or sexual promiscuity.
Emotional challenge This includes having mood swings, experiencing stress, being anxious, or having mood disorders such as depression. If a teen experiences trauma or abuse, that can also affect them and their ability to function in day-to-day settings and situations.
Academic pressure With overcrowded classrooms, high academic expectations, and pressures to succeed from parents, caregivers, or coaches, school can be a huge source of stress for teens. A teen may also face problems with motivation or experience learning difficulties that make the school environment a challenging one.
Social concerns With the increase in use of cell phones and social media, teens face different challenges today than ever before. Bullying (either in person or online), peer pressure, managing social media and the pressures that it exerts, making friends, or handling conflict and relationships with their peers are all examples of the social pressures facing teens today.
Family dynamic A teen may often need to process and learn to cope with difficulties in their family circle. Concerns regarding family dynamics could be a teen processing their parents’ divorce or separation, conflicts in the family, adjusting to moving, reconciling blended family dynamics, or working through grief or loss as a family. Family counseling is also an option when the primary concerns involve the entire family unit.
Self-esteem and identit The teen years are often marked by significant and life-altering changes, whether physical, social, mental, or relational. Peer groups, finding their place in the social hierarchy, building their confidence, coming to terms with their self-image or cultural identity, or understanding their sexuality and personal faith commitments are all ways a teen navigates their life and discovers who they are.
These concerns are just a few examples of those that are addressed in counseling. It is important to contact a licensed counselor to determine if they can address your specific concerns. If the counselor is unable to assist you, they will refer you to someone more qualified to provide specialized care specific to your needs. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help and speak to someone.
When to Consider Teen Counseling
If you are a teen or the parent/caregiver of a teen trying to decide if counseling is the right path, it is important to note that early intervention has the best outcomes. Intervening early can stop issues from escalating, and it can help with nurturing one’s well-being.
Counseling is a helpful tool for parents and teens. Being open to counseling and its benefits is a conversation worth having, and can help to ease any apprehension that might exist about counseling.
Counseling should be a strong consideration in circumstances such as the following:
Destructive behavior When your teen is engaged in substance abuse, self-harm, or other risky behaviors like drunk driving or promiscuity.
Difficulty copin If your family has undergone challenges or experienced major life changes such as loss, trauma, or divorce, and your teen is struggling to cope.
Abrupt and significant behavioral change When a teen has extreme or sudden changes in their academic or sports performance, behavior, or moods, turning to counseling may help them address underlying concerns or challenges.
Social and internal struggles If your teen is struggling with persistent feelings of sadness, anxiety, or hopelessness, or if they’re struggling with their identity, bullying, or their relationships with peers.
The Benefits of Teen Counseling
Teen counseling carries many benefits for the teen as well as their family. It can function as an emotional outlet for the teen and a place where they can share their feelings freely without judgment.
Through counseling, a teen may better understand themselves and develop a greater awareness of their own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This increased self-understanding can help them understand their limits, develop boundaries, appreciate their gifts, and embrace who God made them to be.
Through counseling, a teen may also learn coping skills to help them manage their emotions, reduce stress from various sources, and resolve conflict in their lives.. Other skills, such as conflict resolution and communication skills, can improve the quality of their relationships and increase their chances of success in different endeavors.
Being able to regulate emotions, cope with stressors, and communicate clearly and assertively with others encourages a teen’s confidence and improves overall self-image. It can also improve their focus, performance, resilience, and enjoyment of the tasks and spaces they find themselves in. Being resilient can also help one navigate difficult circumstances.
Choosing Counseling and Concerns to Consider
There are various types of counseling that a teenager can participate in and benefit from. Family therapy is beneficial in addressing family dynamics. Group therapy offers peer support, and art therapy can help teens express their thoughts and emotions non-verbally.
In addition, cognitive-behavioral therapy is effective for addressing concerns such as depression and anxiety. In special circumstances, therapy can be trauma-focused, addressing concerns such as abuse, trauma, or PTSD.
These various approaches and platforms for counseling can all be beneficial for a teen’s well-being. Some concerns to consider along the way would include recognizing the stigma, embarrassment, or reluctance that might accompany the idea of counseling.
If access and cost are also concerns, there are options such as online counseling and group counseling that are affordable and easy to access. Many insurance companies are now providing benefits for counseling, which can help reduce the cost of therapy.
When your teen finds a counselor with a style that works for them, it can be highly effective for addressing any number of concerns. It takes time to build trust, but it’s worth it. To learn more and to find a counselor near you, contact our office today.
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“Teen Boy”, Courtesy of Lesli Whitecotton, Unsplash.com, CC0 License; “Teen Girl”, Courtesy of Taylor Hugh, Unsplash.com, CC0 License
